How failure can change your life

What is failure?

According to the Cambridge dictionary failure is the state or condition of not meeting a desired or intended objective.

When mention is made about failure all we see is negative. Failure can be painful, it causes regret and so many unpleasant feelings. However, for those who have known true failure and have bounced back from it, have understood that in life failure is necessary for success. Even the most successful people have failed at one point in their life. Taking risks and failing is actually part of life. Failing is actually what makes us human.


If you have recently failed at something in a major way and you are going through a difficult time right now have these in mind; 

- Failure gives us experience and better understanding since we go through the same thing twice

- Nothing can replace knowledge gotten from failure

- You do it with more energy than before

- When we fail we reach deeper meaning and understanding. We rethink our decisions and reasons for doing certain things

- Failure gives us a reality check, it reminds us of our inability to control everything
- Failure helps us build resilience

We must also keep in mind that it is okay not to get it in the first few tries.

How to recover from failure

One of the most efficient way to recover from failure is to understand that it is okay to fail but not okay to give up 

 Use failure as your stepping stone. Being able to fall and stand up is something many people don’t know how to do. If you can do this then you are already working towards being successful. 

Set a goal for yourself. At times failure results when we don’t set goals in the right way. We must also track and analyze our goals. Revisit and adjust them too. 

 Do not dwell on your mistakes accept them and learn from them.

 It is obvious that nobody sits for an exam to fail same as not everybody gets it after one trial. People usually say failure is not an option but I say failure should be an option. You should not push people into depressions, sadness, shame, pain just because you were counting on them and they disappointed you. Sometimes we push people so much that they stop trying of which this should not be the case.                          We put people’s expectations and societal norms even before ourselves. 

 My advice to family and friends. 

Try talking to them in a soft tone, give them words of encouragement, assure them of your presence all through the way, and assist them anyhow you can be it financially or morally. Do not let them give up, remind them of why they started that business in the first place, why they sat for that exam, why they began whatsoever thing they started before failing at it. 

 Failure is a bit similar to pain. When someone hurts you, you feel pain you think they betrayed you but with time you see that they mean more to you than whatsoever pain they caused you and you end up forgiving them and giving them a second chance. If you can give someone who hurt you a second chance why not give yourself a second chance to do better at what you failed at.

Today was just an eye opener to those who have failed and are thinking of giving up. see y'all later and i hope to keep up with this rhythm.